If you're ready to go through a divorce, there are a few issues you need to address as a mother. First, you'll need to think about what's going to happen with your marital property. Do you want the spousal home to raise your children in? It's possible, but you may also want to consider the debts you share with your spouse and how taking on a mortgage could affect your finances. You may also want to discuss how you can split financial assets like retirement accounts or savings accounts.
Spousal support can sometimes be a sore subject, but it's something you need to bring up. If you have been a stay-at-home parent for some time, it's likely that you'll need time to find work or additional income to make up for your spouse's lost income. Financial support is supposed to help you get back on your feet, and it's not the same as the child support you may also be requesting. If you want both spousal support and child support, remember to produce your financial documents when you see your attorney. The custodial parent typically receives child support, but the amount can vary by case.
Finally, you know that your child's time may need to be split between you and your ex. If you share custody, then your child may spend half of his or her time with you and half with your ex. That time might not seem even; you may have your child through the school year and less in the summer or vice versa. It's up to you and your spouse to come up with a child custody plan that works for your situation. If you can't, then your attorneys can present your case to the judge for a decision.
Source: The Charlotte Observer, "Top 3 issues to address when deciding to divorce," Theresa Viera, Jan. 11, 2017